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April 26 was Lesbian Visibility Day, and to mark it, BBC Pidgin released a video with the Nigerian activist Pamela Adie, in which she talks about self-discovery, family, and “the most elevating, free, real time” of her life.

Here is a transcript.

I have had relationships with women before. I never really considered myself lesbian. I thought getting married would help me to become “straight.”

I came out to myself in 2011. I told my dad: I’m not attracted to men. And he said, “Are you attracted to women?” and I was like, “Yes.” And then, next thing he said was, “Okay, we will continue to pray.”

At the time I was in a heterosexual marriage. I was married to a man. And it just wasn’t working out.

You might be in denial for a particular period of time, but you will always know.

I don’t think my family has come to a place of support. I think that they’re still struggling with acceptance.

I don’t have any regrets about coming out, because it has been the most elevating, free, real time of my life.

Watch the video on BBC Pidgin.

For a full list of international LGBTQ+ awareness dates and what they represent, visit The Rustin Times.

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Otosirieze Obi-Young is Deputy Editor of Brittle Paper. He is a judge for the 2018/19 Gerald Kraak Prize and the 2019 Miles Morland Writing Scholarships. He is an editor at 14, Nigeria’s first queer art collective, which has published volumes including We Are Flowers (2017) and The Inward Gaze (2018). He is the curator of the Art Naija Series, a sequence of e-anthologies of writing and visual art focusing on different aspects of Nigerianness, including Enter Naija: The Book of Places (2016), which explores cities, and Work Naija: The Book of Vocations (2017), which explores professions. His fiction has appeared in The Threepenny Review and Transition. He has completed a collection of short stories, You Sing of a Longing, is working on a novel, and is represented by David Godwin Associates literary agency. He attended the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, where he got an M.A. in African Studies and a combined honours B.A. in History & International Studies and English & Literary Studies. He taught English at Godfrey Okoye University, Enugu. Find him at otosirieze.com, where he accepts writing and editing offers, or on Instagram or Twitter: @otosirieze. When bored, he Googles Rihanna.

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